We’ve all heard the saying that “opposites attract” and while that might be true when talking about magnetic fields in science class, the same can’t be said for romantic relationships. “The answer is actually no — true opposites don’t attract – but it’s always surprising to people when we talk about this. Opposites may initially attract, but they very rarely stay together long-term,” says Tori Cawman, relationship education outreach specialist.
Early in a relationship, new qualities that are not like your own may trigger interest and excitement, but as time passes, these same qualities may be the ones that annoy us the most. It’s important to recognize and understand what qualities may be a deal breaker for you. Opposites in core beliefs, values, ethics, goals and other intrinsic qualities do not often stay together. But someone whose personality may appear opposite to yours could actually complement your personality if your core characteristics are the same.
But, before you can know what you want in a partner, you have to really know yourself. Here is a quick activity you can do to better understand who YOU are and in return will help you pick a partner that’s a good match for you.
You can download a PDF of the worksheet here.
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