In the United States approximately two-thirds of children in foster care have a sibling also in care. When siblings are removed from their home and placed in foster care we make every attempt to keep them together. We understand sibling relationships help children achieve developmental milestones as well as provide emotional support, companionship and comfort in times of change. Separating siblings compounds the grief they feel over separation from their parents and the transition to a new home.
Siblings placed together use their relationships to understand who they are. Not only do siblings help children to adapt to new and frightening situations, but also they remain important figures throughout their lives. As children, siblings form a child’s first peer group, typically spending more time with each other than with anyone else. Joint sibling placement is associated with higher rates of reunification, adoption and guardianship and fewer disruptions in their placement.
According to ICPC coordinator, Makaila Gay, “Many times the sibling relationship will be the only relationship that will last a lifetime.” Makaila is a case manager for a sibling group of three. The three sisters clearly leaned on one another for support and love. Fortunately they were placed in the same foster home. Once a stable connection was established with their foster mother, they worked together as a family to make sure all their needs were met. Even with placement in a caring environment, children in foster care may act on the emotional trauma. Such was the case with the oldest sister; when she ran away, the strong relationship she had with her siblings was the reason she returned.
“I do not think these sisters would be as successful in foster care if they had been separated.” Makaila shared.
The sibling connection is often the most important connection for a child in foster care to maintain. It may be the only relationship they have with their biological families. Their shared history provides stability and improves the sense of belonging. When a child’s world is turned upside down, sharing that experience with a sibling can be the difference between the placement’s success or its failure.
You can help provide stability to a sibling group. Learn more about becoming a foster parent here or call us at 1-855-SRV-KIDS (855-778-5437).